tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1206076247551590980.post7426045536997260313..comments2023-10-17T01:37:38.451-07:00Comments on BLAH BLAH BLOGGING: Great ArticleJessicahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10837233289810338872noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1206076247551590980.post-87962774830491523332010-10-16T16:23:06.121-07:002010-10-16T16:23:06.121-07:00I just found your blog through your crafty blog, w...I just found your blog through your crafty blog, which I found looking for crafty printables for my unborn baby's nursery! It just so happens that we live in the Portland area, too!<br /><br />I totally agree with this article. I am a kindergarten teacher with two degrees (BS and Masters) in early childhood development and no matter how parents try to justify "sleep-training" the research just does not support it. Listening to your child's individual needs (whether that be closeness to sleep or more space) is what research has said to be consistently best for babies (and co-sleeping/room sharing reduces the risk of SIDS, as well). I think it is horrendous that people ignore their baby's only was of communicating (crying) as a way to control their child or show their child "who's boss." This does not support secure attachment, nor a sense of self-efficacy in the child. I have no desire to "train" my child, only to find a parenting style that is respectful of and works for ALL members of our family :) Loved this article :) Thanks for sharing!McDorkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17518478249738616406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1206076247551590980.post-85117006721174960562010-07-26T20:04:08.475-07:002010-07-26T20:04:08.475-07:00My mom never let me cry (day or night) and always ...My mom never let me cry (day or night) and always held me and I have very high self esteem (probably shouldn't admit that) and no emotional problems. But I think genetics play a huge roll. I don't think babies can be spoiled or held too much, but I also think it is important to research all sides. They say that babies that don't develop healthy sleeping patterns as infants will have sleep problems for the rest of their lives and other health problems(apparently studies have been done). And there are other ways to encourage babies to sleep through the night besides letting them CIO. The interesting thing about attachment parenting to me is that people point out the fact that babies in countries like china, africa, india, etc. don't have colic because they sleep in the same bed as their parents and are carried in a sling all day. I think they don't have colic because those countries don't drink milk and have way healthier diets than most americans. But who knows.[M]https://www.blogger.com/profile/10905959631840814165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1206076247551590980.post-85670134383115426132010-07-23T21:51:36.410-07:002010-07-23T21:51:36.410-07:00I love you Jess! I,as you know, wouldn't consi...I love you Jess! I,as you know, wouldn't consider my parenting or sleep training to fall under CIO or AP. I do think that learning a little bit about responding to your childs cries and considering why they are crying has benefited me. I think a lot of parents think that when their babies/toddlers come over crying or whining to them to be picked up, it's annoying. I know there are times that I feel that way a little. But after learning more, I realized that I never consider why they're crying. They want your affection and attention...they need it. So why not give it to them as much as they need it. It's not like they're asking for candy or money or even a pony...they just want your attention and affection. If they could speak and came up to us and said "mom, dad, I just want to be near you. I need to be comforted, please hold me." ,we'd probably never say no. Crying to us is their only way to get that across. I don't think we can ever spoil our children with too much love... Anyway, just what I got out of learning about to AP style. Sorry I just rambled forever. It's late and I'm a little sleep deprived.Kelseyhttp://theealdridgefamily.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1206076247551590980.post-14613034696834634282010-07-23T13:36:46.932-07:002010-07-23T13:36:46.932-07:00This is a perfect example of the paradoxical natur...This is a perfect example of the paradoxical nature of parenting. It seems that for every "idea", "method", or "technique" in parenting there is an exact opposite one, as well, and there are always sound reasons and explainations for both sides.<br />Just wait 'til you get to potty training!! :) <br /><br />What I love is that you are so committed to your daughter and "doing right" by her upbringing and nurturing. I have always admired your commitment to parenting and its ideals. Thanks so much for sharing this information and starting a discussion that illustrates what excellent mothers you have reading your blog. There are obviously a lot of good parents reading this and trying to do the best they can. I simply love that.Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17279705473021092772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1206076247551590980.post-29328717071062583492010-07-22T21:26:13.388-07:002010-07-22T21:26:13.388-07:00So I guess since it refers to sleep-training, then...So I guess since it refers to sleep-training, then I guess it is ok to say that I disagree with the attachment thing. (I mean, I know it is OK:), but parenting can get touchy and I didn't want to put my opinion where it wasn't asked for). Anyway, that is what is great, is we each get to do it our own way. I guess I just don't like some one telling me *meaning the article* how I choose to sleep train my kid is wrong. Cute pictures, she is getting big and I see some longer hair is comin'!!Robynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07059642650150669008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1206076247551590980.post-11709134197400229782010-07-22T17:54:25.342-07:002010-07-22T17:54:25.342-07:00I don't have kids yet, but I think about this ...I don't have kids yet, but I think about this topic often. My parents let me cry it out, and I think I'm emotionally healthy and also grew up with a healthy relationship with my parents. They did the same with all us kids, and we're all confident, secure, outgoing and are totally connected (and always have been) with my parents. <br /><br />My husband on the other hand, never cried it out (constant attention from la mamma), and throughout different phases of his life has had serious issues with anxiety, avoidance and mistrust.<br /><br />My point is that our personalities totally contradict this study. I know that these studies are general and that there are ALWAYS exceptions though. Plus, other events in my husband's life could have contributed to his previous "issues." <br /><br />I remember reading about these studies in my human development class though, and thinking to myself that I didn't want to let my child cry it out. <br /><br />I like what Erica said. I think it depends on what the child needs. When we have babies, I think we'll do what's best, and still love and adore and be available for our children, and I think they'll turn out just fine. That said, I think every parent should do what they feel is best for their baby, whether that be letting them COI or not.Emalei Ambrosiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02530026517711038025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1206076247551590980.post-83168220332116608432010-07-22T16:38:03.004-07:002010-07-22T16:38:03.004-07:00\I think there are times when the parent has to de...\I think there are times when the parent has to determine what is best for his or her own individual child. I tried letting June cry it out once for a very short time and never did it again because it wasn't the right method for her. And after that experience I really looked down on people who let their child cry for an extended period if time, thinking they were just doing it for their own needs. Wesley is a TOTALLY different baby. He cried it out for the first 9 months of his life. If I were to rock him and try to help him fall asleep he would cry even louder and struggle like mad and become overly stimulated; I tried for hours and hours to soothe him. He NEEDED to be alone and work it out on his own. And believe me I HATED to hear him cry. And I would even go so far to say that I think letting him CIO was more stressful and time consuming for me than holding him and helping him get to sleep. Now that he finally figured it out, he is a great sleeper and truly the happiest baby I know (and I'm not just saying that because I know him and love him, people say it to us all the time). So by no means was letting him CIO an easy way out for us nor did it come at a cost to his happiness, in the end it probably made him happier. <br /><br /><br /><br />It's interesting what life's experiences (and each child) teach us :)Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09885525715828498017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1206076247551590980.post-84477005245276693122010-07-22T13:24:10.886-07:002010-07-22T13:24:10.886-07:00Just saw that you deleted your post- I like the di...Just saw that you deleted your post- I like the discussion though and am not offended that you disagree. :)Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10837233289810338872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1206076247551590980.post-84653553442385792712010-07-22T13:22:33.850-07:002010-07-22T13:22:33.850-07:00Hi Roy,
The CIO method refers to methods of "...Hi Roy,<br /><br />The CIO method refers to methods of "sleep-training." You are certainly not the only person who reads my blog that lets their kids cry it out. I can appreciate that the technique "works" in that eventually the child will fall asleep and in time no longer expect a parent to come to them. The point of the article though, is that at what cost? I agree that as parents, we all have to make the decisions for our kids that we deem best. I think this article articulates well why we choose to avoid the CIO method, and our purpose in embracing methods of attachment-promoting behaviors though it's more time-consuming and taxing. :)Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10837233289810338872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1206076247551590980.post-57133656934144384262010-07-22T11:55:04.267-07:002010-07-22T11:55:04.267-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Robynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07059642650150669008noreply@blogger.com